Difficult Relationships…

You know the phrase, “they’ll dig their own hole”, or “give them enough rope, they’ll hang themselves”?

I have to admit. I am somewhat hooked (that’s my way of not owning the fact that I might be totally hooked on such trash) on The Real Housewives. New York, Los Angeles, Miami…you name it. But out of all, those New York girls seem to be the meanest. These middle-aged diva’s constantly fight in the name of friendship. (I have to ask myself while watching,” where in the world did they come up with their definition of friendship?!”)

The one housewife that I’m drawn to is Kelly from New York. Although, for the sake of tv, they (the producers) would like to make her look “whacked out” at times, I believe she, more than most, wants to stay out of the drama and battles.

I find myself in some relationships in life that aren’t all that I’d like them to be. And as I get older, I’ve come to the knowledge that we can’t make everyone out there like us. In fact, some may even dislike us. (darn it) I’m so tempted at times to jump in with both feet, defend myself, point out others flaws, and in my heart I hear, “be kind, be compassionate, try love”. I also hear my mother say, “If you can’t say something nice about someone, don’t say anything at all”. And this morning I read this:

“The wicked will draw the sword and bend the bow….but their swords will pierce their own heart and their bows will be broken”–Psalm 37:14-15

It spoke to me. There it is! In the Bible! What comes around, goes around. They’ll dig their own hole. They’ll use their own rope.

I don’t wish that on anyone. But I also don’t have to participate in trying to bring others down.

If I’m ever again in that situation or relationship, my hope is that I will turn the other cheek and pray for the person involved. Not add fuel to the fire by joining in on the fight, but be more like Kelly ( did I just say that, I want to be like a Real Housewife?) and walk away and pray.

PS- The whole backwards apostrophe issue is not a Michaela typo, but a WordPress issue.  Believe me, I’m trying to figure it out.  It looks so sloppy, and I’m sure it’s driving my “Business Teacher” mother crazy!


About 49andcounting

Hi! I'm a mom, wife, grammy, sister, friend at that ALMOST 50 age!! (Okay, since I started this a few years ago...well, add a bit to 49andcounting!) How the heck did I get here so fast?!? I love, love, love- my girls, antiques, rural America, history, Jesus, junkin,the lake and my Big Boy...not particularly in that order. It's about time I change this profile a bit. After a year or living in our 5th wheel in beautiful Pennsylvania, My Big Boy and I are back to the Kansas Prairies. And there's just nothing like "Home Sweet Home". Hitting the Big 50 has its own unique, well...let's say...blessings :) So come along, laugh with me...cry with me...praise God with me...and let's do this 49andcounting thing, together!
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